The physics of love and happiness are counterintuitive. As long as we are stuck in the need to receive - in the cycle of grasping and clinging and demanding that people and the world around us meet our needs - we will be locked into disappointment, anger, and misery. The sweet paradox is being fulfilled by giving, that your output precipitates the input-giving and receiving become simultaneous. To love and to be loved is the highest human reward and ecstasy.