People set expectations for themselves that they force themselves to follow. They force themselves to follow others like a pack of sheep. Being popular is not a requirement, but being intelligent is something that is valued, and intelligence makes you your own leader, if you think of yourself as the leader, you will be yourself, and being yourself will bring your own joy and value. Life wasn't created to live up to expectations. Life was made so you can have your own story, be you, and live you.